✨ You Are Not the Cup — You Are the Gold ✨
- Avalon Karatau
- May 10
- 2 min read
Let’s get real. Getting out of a relationship with a narcissist can feel like being smashed against a wall—like you’re a once-beautiful teacup now lying on the floor in pieces. Tossed out. Forgotten. Cracked in places you didn’t even know you had.
But I’ve got something to tell you. In Japan, they don’t throw away broken teacups. No, they gather every shattered piece and fill the cracks with gold. It’s called kintsugi—and it doesn’t hide the break. It honours it. The breaks become what makes the cup stronger… more valuable.
But here’s the real truth bomb: You are not the cup. You are the gold.
Read that again.
You’re the radiant gold that fills the cracks and makes something shattered whole again. You’re the one showing up for yourself after betrayal, after confusion, after lies that chipped away at your self-worth.
So here’s my challenge. Just for today. Not for him. Not for them. Just for you.
Every time you hear that voice creeping in—“You’re not good enough…”“You always mess it up…”“Who would want you now? ”STOP.
Grab that voice by the throat. Shake it. Flip it. Reverse it. Then water-blast it with the garden hose like a warrior queen in a dressing gown yelling, “WHY AM I SO DAMN AMAZING!?”
Say it with me like a prayer turned power anthem:
🎵 "I’m every woman, it’s all in me!" 🎵You know the tune. Belt it. Wiggle while you water the plants. Interrupt that negative loop with a question that tricks your brain into rewiring itself:
Why am I so freaking powerful?
How have I made my life easier today?
What did I do today that proves I’m healing?
Where am I growing stronger?
You’ll be stunned at what happens after 7 days of doing this. It won’t feel instant. Healing rarely is. But one day, you’ll catch yourself laughing again. Smiling without guilt. Dancing in the kitchen for no reason. That’s not the cup. That’s the gold.
You are the healing. You are the new story. You are not broken—you’re rare, and no one gets to toss you out again.
This is the alternative guide to dating, relationships, and rising from toxicity.No meds, no guru complex, just raw healing from one family constellation, one deep breath, one kitchen dance at a time.
You’re not waiting for the right man to show up. You’re becoming the woman he will be lucky to meet.
And if you’re calling yourself names? I’ll give you one of my classic ras—💥 SLAP! (figuratively, of course)Don’t go beating yourself up when you’re just getting started.
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